“Why does no one love me?” “Why does no one care?” Have you found yourself asking these questions? Have you ever doubted your worth, seeing yourself as less than valuable because of a broken relationship or someone who left?
I think we’ve all been there.
I think we’ve all lessened our value because of the way we were treated, saw ourselves as less-than-beautiful because of someone’s inability to value us for the skin we’re in.
I wish I had the answer to why this happens. I wish I could say, “Just smile at yourself in the mirror and all those empty feelings will go away!” Or “Just move on; it’s one relationship!” But life doesn’t work like that.
The journey to self-love is often a difficult and heavy one.
But it’s worth it.
So, if you’re feeling unworthy, if you’re feeling unloved, if you’re asking yourself, “Why does no one love me?” I want you to close your eyes for just a minute. Take a deep breath in, then slowly exhale out.
Are these words that you truly believe about yourself, or words that someone’s poor treatment of you made you see as truth? Are you really all of those things—unworthy, unloved, unvalued—or are you clinging to something because it’s become a familiar, comfortable identity?
The truth is, you’re not any of those negative words. The truth is, every single person has (and will have) ups and downs in life, but none of those moments are a measure of your worth.
When it comes to relationships, you have to keep in mind that even if you haven’t found the “best friend,” the “soulmate,” the “partner,” or the “special someone,” that doesn’t mean that person (or people) aren’t out there. It doesn’t mean you’re somehow less valuable because you haven’t found him/her. And it doesn’t mean your time has passed.
Every single person’s journey is different, and what you must remember that there are people who care about you—even if you feel alone right now.
If you’re feeling isolated here are a few things you can do:
Learn More About Yourself In Order to Connect with Others
We are all bound to feel lonely from time to time. One of the best ways to combat this loneliness is to surround yourself with like-minded people.
But first, you have to know who you are and what you align with in order to attract the right kind of people.
Peeling back your layers in order to discover yourself starts by understanding your personality. At Birdy, we’ve created a FREE Personality Assessment to help with this. Answering the questions and discovering pieces of yourself is the first step to battling loneliness and leaning into your true self.
Discover People Who Have Similar Personalities
Birdy is a personality-matching and dating app that focuses on understanding people for who they are first (rather than what they look like). In a digital world of online apps and information, images and physical traits are often the ruler. Through our app, you’ll dive into personality first—both yours and your matches—which helps people connect authentically and purposefully.
If you’re feeling isolated or misunderstood, this is one of the best ways to not only join with likeminded people, but to find connections that go beyond the surface level.
Grow In Connection and Community
We often feel misunderstood when we are surrounded by people we lack connection with.
Whether it’s a family member, friend, or significant other, if the person (or people) we are around don’t understand the core aspects of our personality, it creates a disconnect between us that keeps us from growing and deepening relationships.
At Birdy, we prioritize meaningful connections. Each of our users will create an account, complete the FREE personality test, and create “Story Books” (personality stories) that allow other users to learn about your passions, hobbies, and areas of interest.
Once you make a mutual “match” with another Birdy, you’ll have the option to reveal a selfie photo, keeping personality and connection first—looks and physical traits second.
Remember: You Are Not Alone
Regardless of how isolated or alone you feel, remember that these are emotions and not the truth. There are people who care about you, there are opportunities to connect, and regardless of how many dating apps you’ve tried or personality quizzes you’ve taken in the past—you can find your community here.
To learn more about Birdy and take our personality assessment, click here.